Frustration can be so demoralizing, but God is still God. A few months ago, I experienced heartbreak after someone who seemed meaningful in my life ghosted me. She blocked me, disappeared without explanation, and then, just a few days later, I learned she had a girlfriend. I couldn’t help but think… WTF?
It’s maddening when people ghost or leave without closure, especially in toxic relationships where you invest emotionally. You think you have something real, and then they move on like nothing happened.
Then came the audacity: she unblocked me and called to tell me she had a new girlfriend. By that point, I was checked out. I tried to create my own closure: I sent flowers with a note that read, “Just something to make you smile. You don’t have to text or call.”
Here’s the ironic twist: the flowers arrived the same day her new girlfriend was there. My small gesture of moving on sparked a two-hour fight for a three-day-old relationship. I didn’t expect that, and the flowers actually arrived a day later than I intended. The Lord has a sense of humor, doesn’t He?
Don’t mess with Jesus’s children. And if the flowers meant closure from my side… why did they cause a two-hour fight? Lmao.
When I called to check if she got the flowers, her response was cold.
She: “I didn’t appreciate your flowers.”
Me: “Why?”
She: “I don’t want to talk about it.”
She: (Muted her call)
Me: “But why? Hello? Hello?”
Me: “Well, I guess I’m letting go now.”
The next day, she called again:
She: “Hi.”
Me: “Hello.”
She: “Are you at work?”
Me: “Nope.”
She: “Why not?”
Me: “Leaving later.”
She: “Anyway, I have a girlfriend now. I told you this on Friday.”
Me: “No, you didn’t. You said you didn’t know if you’d ever unblock me. That was a difficult question to ask then.”
She: “Well, Sunday, I had a girlfriend.”
Me: “Oh, okay.”
She: “I’m sorry for whatever you think I did to you. I just want to start my new relationship on a good note.”
Me: “Oh, okay. Good luck with that.”
She: “Perhaps we can meet for drinks when all this is over.”
Me: Silence (rolling my eyes)
She: “But I’m going to block you again because I think we need time.”
Me: Silence (rolling my eyes)
She: “Okay, bye then.”
Me: Ended the call and rolled over in bed. Blocked her.
What kind of world do we live in where ghosting and toxic behavior are normalized? Where people enter and exit our lives with little regard for the emotional impact?
Even in heartbreak, God reminds me: He sees the pain, the frustration, and the confusion. He is faithful when people are not. Sometimes, letting go—even when it stings—is how we make space for what is truly meant for us.
And sometimes… He even has a little laugh along the way.
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